Mary vs Martha


Mary vs Martha

and Not Becoming a Hot Mess

By Niccole Perrine


As Jesus and his disciples were on their way, he came to a village where a woman named Martha opened her home to him. She had a sister called Mary, who sat at the Lord’s feet listening to what he said. But Martha was distracted by all the preparations that had to be made. She came to him and asked, “Lord, don’t you care that my sister has left me to do the work by myself? Tell her to help me! “Martha, Martha,” the Lord answered, “you are worried and upset about many things, but few things are needed—or indeed only one. Mary has chosen what is better, and it will not be taken away from her.”

Luke 10:38-42 (NIV)


This story always bothered me. I’ve never been someone to sit still idly when things needed doing. In fact, I find myself highly uncomfortable sitting still and visiting when someone else is working. So I see Martha here. She’s a gal who is busy. She’s got people in her home and Jesus Himself is there. Jesus!


Just picture that. If Jesus appeared in our homes, and we had an opportunity to bring Him something to eat or drink, I doubt any amongst us would hesitate in our service of Him.


That’s exactly what Mary does here. She is enraptured with her Savior. She is sitting there, right at Jesus’ feet, drinking in every word falling from His mouth. It’s so easy to imagine this girl, her eyes shining and her face tipped up towards Him. Perfect communion.


Martha, meanwhile, is kinda going off the deep end. She’s doing all the work to prepare the meal and make folks comfortable. Those tasks, in and of themselves, are not what the problem is. It’s really Martha’s attitude that’s the issue here. She’s irritated and flustered and annoyed. She could be referred to as a “hot mess.” She’s so focused on the mechanics of hospitality that she’s forgotten the love.


In our world, it’s so easy to be like Martha. To rush and get irritated at little disappointments and be so busy that we forget the love. We so often neglect reading the words of our Lord- because we’ve made our lives too full with worry, with things. We ignore our need to reflect on the Truths that God has for us, all in an effort to fill our days with stuff.


How much better would it be if we began our service connecting with God by reading His Word, bringing our worries to Him in prayer, and resting at His Feet in meditation? How much more would our service impact those around us if we took the time to be in communion with Him before we acted?


Let’s be sure we’ve got Mary’s heart in combination with Martha’s hands the next time we step forward to serve.


Niccole Perrine moved to Idaho from Alaska in 2011. In her natural habitat she is seen having adventures with her husband and homeschooling her four children. In her spare time, she enjoys serving in her church at Meridian First Baptist, brainstorming new ways to love others as the Service Project Coordinator for AHG Troop ID2911, and honing her writing skills alongside local authors in Idahope.

Committed to helping parents fulfill their God-given right and responsibility to educate their own children.