The Other Side of Service

The Other Side of Service


by Niccole Perrine


For those of us who find pure joy in giving blessings to others- it’s a burden to accept someone’s help. It’s acutely painful to watch others step in and take on our needs. If you’re like me- you want to avoid this pain as much as possible.


In the ideal world, we would be self-sufficient, able to tackle every obstacle. But the facts remain:

We don’t live in an ideal. 

We live in a broken world. 

Life gets messy.


This isn’t the ‘missed my cup of coffee and we had cereal for dinner’ stuff. (Although, those days do happen.)  I’m talking about the stuff that makes you cry out to God.


Seasons that make you realize you don’t have it all together. The worry of the unknown. Balancing boundaries with discernment. Suddenly being hospitalized. Having a baby born early. The fear of loss. Moving households and struggling to make school happen. Despair.


You find yourself on your knees, praying for grace and courage… because you know you are not enough on your own. You need God’s provisions, and His love to survive. That your only hope is for Him to sustain you moment by moment, because when trying to handle it on your own you know you will fall, fail, and never be yourself again. Broken. Helpless. Hopeless.


Then ‘Abba’ your perfect, loving Father, who knows all and loves more than we could ever grasp- steps in.


He sends you friends who help and encourage, and love. They don’t judge you or make you feel small. They remind you, laughingly, that “It’s your turn to be blessed!”  They pray with you, cry with you, and comfort you. They bring you coffee, tacos, and take your kids to the zoo. They share how God provided for them in their own scary seasons. They call to check on you and say they love you and are sharing in your burdens.


They’re angels of mercy. God’s messengers of hope and love.  You take a breath, look around, and know it’s going to be okay. Praise God for this season. It’s horrible and wonderful and suddenly…you have a peace that makes absolutely no sense to the world.


God doesn’t expect us to ‘have it all together’. He knows we’re broken. He provides people in our lives to serve Him and ease our pain. He uses our brokenness as part of His plan to bring Glory and Honor to Himself.


If nobody ever accepted a blessing offered, then who would we serve?


If you find yourself in a painful season, remember to surrender your pride.  God uses His people to accomplish His will. Accept the blessings that God sends your way.


“Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn from me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.”
Matthew 11:28-30


Niccole Perrine moved to Idaho from Alaska in 2011. In her natural habitat she is seen having adventures with her husband and homeschooling her four children. In her spare time, she enjoys serving in her church at Meridian First Baptist, brainstorming new ways to love others as the Service Project Coordinator for AHG Troop ID2911, and honing her writing skills alongside local authors in Idahope.

Committed to helping parents fulfill their God-given right and responsibility to educate their own children.